Seth’s 7th tooth is finally coming in! It’s been forever since a new tooth, we had almost resigned ourselves to having a child who enters college with only six teeth. His nose started running yesterday, and last night, he woke up crying a few times during the night. The first time, a little milk put him back to sleep. The second time, we tried giving him ice water which worked a little, and I tried rocking him with abysmal results. He still hurt and was pretty inconsolable. Then Todd went and got a cold, wet washcloth. In the past, Seth has liked sucking and gnawing on it. He went to back to sleep easily this time with the washcloth in his…hand. Every time after that when he woke up and was upset, I noticed it was because the washcloth had fallen out of his hand. I simply put it back in his hand, and Seth would quickly settle back to sleep.

My husband: a genius. My son: weird.

Washington state (and possibly other states, I don’t know, we only live in one state at a time) sends out regular mailings to let you know about health tips and development stages for your baby. The information is usually pretty good, even if we know almost all of it already.

In the most recent mailing, they advise you to make sure that your toddler has “90 minutes of active time per day”.

I’m sorry, but hahahahahahahahahahah. Hah.

Seth gets about 90 minutes of active time per every 91 minutes. We’re way ahead of the state on this one.

I’ve been reading a lot of frugal living books lately. Not only because I’ve always been drawn to a more frugal, simple living-type lifestyle, but these days, saving our pennies is a must. Instead of telling you which books I found useful, though, I thought I would share things that our family actually does to help save money or at least be more conscientious spenders:

Use mint.com. This is free, online software that you load all of your accounts into (don’t worry, it’s fully secure!), and then they keep track of every (non-cash) transaction and make nifty graphs of your spending.

Read Your Money or Your Life We’ve brought this up before, but it is a great book for helping identify your financial and work goals, and cutting down on excess.

Clip coupons…sometimes. I check the weekly grocery store ads, Thrifty NW Mom (a good round-up of deals site, sadly with a sexist name as my SAH dad friend pointed out), and am willing to sign up to receive emails from companies I know I always purchase from. The tricky thing to watch out for with coupons, though, is that I find they’re often for convenience or packaged foods, or for things that we don’t buy anyway. And I say sometimes because trying to track down coupons for everything we buy would be super time-consuming.

Meal plan & grocery shop weekly. We get a weekly farm box of organic produce (and to be truthful, I get this for free as a work perk – woot!). Knowing what produce we have on hand for the week makes meal planning easy once you get the hang of it. It takes Todd and me about 10 minutes to create a menu, and then the aim is to go grocery shopping once that week; less time in the grocery store equals less opportunity to impulse-buy (and also equals more family time dontcha know).

Shop at different stores. The above being said, I will split my one shopping list between stores if it makes sense. This week, for example, I went to QFC for two meat items that were on a great sale, but didn’t buy the rest of my list there because they tend to have higher prices in general. Also going to different stores allows you to check out what prices they have on staples. The Tightwad Gazette suggests making a price notebook to keep track of who always has the cheapest prices on such-and-such, which would be handy, but my impressionistic way works okay for now.

Cook whole foods. It takes more time and effort to prepare and cook meals from scratch, but then you also know exactly what’s in them. It’s also cheaper! We do buy some prepared things (such as beans — I can’t seem to perfect cooking dried; and my achilles heel, boxed cereal…), but try to buy mostly whole foods. Feeding the Whole Family: Cooking with Whole Foods is a resourceful cookbook on how to get started. Oh, and a random tip: buy spices from the bulk foods section! never buy them in a jar!!!1

Use substitutes in the kitchen. We consistently substitute coconut milk for heavy cream in soup recipes; 1 TBSP of vinegar + milk to equal one cup as a sub for 1 cup of buttermilk; plain yogurt instead of sour cream; better than bouillon instead of packaged stock (on my wish list is to make our own stock from scratch). While sour cream isn’t that expensive, it’s one more thing to buy, and then have to use up in order to not waste it. There is A LOT of molded sour cream in our past…

Hit up the bread outlet store. Also on my wish list is making our own bread, but in the meantime I stock up on many loaves at a time from the Oroweat or Franz outlet, and freeze what we’re not going to use right away. Seriously, I get angry if I somehow run out and have to buy a loaf at the grocery store.

Skip the memberships. No netflix, no gym, no Costco. I ask to go with my parents to Costco :] Oh, but if we weren’t already getting a produce box, we would strongly consider joining a CSA — the savings are pretty good, and the veggies are great!

No home phone, no cable tv. I’ve heard that you’re supposed to have a home phone for kids to be able to call 911 in an emergency. When Seth is older, we may revisit this, but for now, cell phones are it. And we don’t miss cable at all; hulu.com or borrowing whole seasons of dvds works better for us anyway. (Actually, I miss watching cooking shows and Shark Week, and Todd misses watching sports, but we get over it.)

Keep a timer in the shower. Okay, so this hasn’t necessarily saved us money yet, but it definitely makes us conscious of our (…high) water usage. And I’ll remind myself here that cutting one minute off your shower time can save about 700 gallons of water per month. Yeesh!

Change our own oil. We also haven’t seen savings from this yet, but I just learned how a month ago as a Christmas gift, and we have been bad about proper car maintenance in the past. So I know it will pay off in the long term…

Wash full loads of laundry. Other than items that could be ruined or bleed onto other stuff, everything (barring diapers) gets thrown into the wash together. Sorting colors is for the birds.

Cloth diaper. It’s a little gross, but so worth the effort.

Pay bills on time, don’t carry credit card debt. Our past regarding the latter is not blemish-free, but we now know that it makes no sense to pay for the opportunity to buy something.

Use the library. Our ever-present stack of checked out books, magazines, board books, cd’s, comics, etc, averages about 8 feet tall. Our spending on media is usually only the cost of late fees (Psst, see the tip above this one! Yes, but we can make an exception because the late fees benefit the library…)

Hopefully some of these were helpful and not too obvious. Are there some things that you do to save money? Please comment; I love finding more easy things to slip into our routine!

Seth’s hair has really started to grow in the last few months. His hair has been short for most of his life, and the little hair he had was so wispy that it almost was invisible. Now that it’s growing in, it looks like he’s going to have his birth uncles’ curly hair (and Carter’s hair color).

Here is the world.
Beautiful and terrible things will happen.
Don’t be afraid.

Frederick Buechner

Ran across the above quote this morning on a newly discovered, wonderful blog, and am pretty in love with it. Like, wanting to paint it on my front door or tattoo it on my palm kind of love.

When I get in bed for the night, I often picture what my family looks like in the middle of the night. Three sardines lined up in bed, fast asleep and dreaming, sharing warmth and sharing sleep. And that image makes me love Todd and Seth all the more.

Long story short, Todd and I had been planning on Seth sleeping in a co-sleeper attached to the side of our bed. When we went down to CA to await Seth’s birth, however, it stayed home because it was heavy and bulky. Gale said Seth should sleep right next to me. I was a little apprehensive — wouldn’t I squish the teeny baby? That was our whole reasoning behind the co-sleeper; we wanted him close to us, but not dangerously close. But, barring his first night, spent on the warming tray in the hospital, Seth slept right next to me the rest of the time down in CA. And by the time we came back home, we couldn’t imagine him sleeping anywhere at night but between Todd and me. And not to say that he hasn’t been elbowed by us by accident, but that kid dishes it out tenfold.

Like when Todd and I got married: I quickly got so used to sleeping next to him, that when either of us was out late, or I went to a girl sleepover, I felt unsettled. It’s like that with Seth. These days one of us lies down with him to fall asleep, and we move him into his own space at the end of our bed. (We can finally consistently have T&B time! Yay!) After coming back in the bedroom, I drift off to sleep, but not without checking to make sure he’s okay. Then inevitably between 11pm and 2am, he’ll cry and even sometimes stand up. We move him into bed between us, and he (and we) falls back asleep instantly. And I’m really okay with this night after night.

Todd and I joke about Seth finally moving into his own bed when he’s forty, and I assure you, it will happen much, much sooner than that. Maybe that’s why I’m savoring it, because moving him into his own crib/bed is surely just around the corner. But in the meantime, sharing sleep with my two favorite people makes me one happy Mama.

Seth – 12 months from Eel Fang on Vimeo.

Music is Moby, “Run On”. Video spans from early October through Christmas day.

THIS BABY IS ADORABLE!

Who would have thought that it would take longer to blog about Christmas than to celebrate it? Here’s the condensed version of what’s left to be told. Let me know if you want more details behind any of this!

Christmas morning, our house
Stockings and presents for Todd and Betsy (Seth got his the day before)
Ricotta doughnuts! So good!
Rushing around like crazy, trying to pack for two days out of the house

Christmas day, Betsy’s parents house
Brunch with the family
Opening presents – Seth loved helping!
Nap time for baby, reading and family time for parents
Delicious pot roast feast

Good helper
Good helper
Seth with Aunt Sarah
Looking at toys with Aunt Sarah
Seth on Grandma's lap
Spending time with Grandma
Pot roast, carrots, potatoes and baby
Pot roast, carrots, potatoes and baby

Christmas night/day after Christmas, Todd’s parents house
Seth fell asleep in the car, and was successfully moved to the crib without waking!
Great time in the evening just talking and playing games
Cinnamon rolls in the morning
Aunt, Uncle and cousins arrive
Open presents
Eating cioppino (Italian seafood stew) for lunch
Naps!
Waffles for dinner, and then back home.

Face full of breakfast
Face full of breakfast
Trying on his cousin's clothes
Trying on his cousin Annika’s new clothes
New truck!
New truck! (He LOVES this truck.)
Three generations of Voelker men, cooking together
Three generations of Voelker men, cooking together

I forgot to mention that the biting is back with a vengeance (with no new teeth in sight), and you like to hit Mommy and Daddy in the face. Oh, Seth…

Dear Sweetheart,

You turned 13 months old today! Wow — time is really flying these days! You are so smart and curious, and amaze us by learning new things every day. You are very much into “container play” these days, and you love moving blocks in and out of tupperware, pulling the (baby-proofed) contents of Mommy’s wallet out, and opening and closing drawers and cabinets. You also get a kick out of having us pretend-eat or -drink things; you’ll hold a sippy cup for us to drink, and make a particular clicking/smacking noise.

You really like looking at your photo album. Every afternoon we pull it out and point out all your family members, and you’ll occasionally give some of the photos kisses! We’re having some great weather, so you’re also enjoying getting to go the park almost every day. You could take or leave the swing, but love just walking around on the wood chips and leaves, making a pile of wood chips on the slide, and simply being outside. You also like following the bigger kids around, and vice versa!

We had an opportunity to give a talk for the adoption agency a few weeks ago, and upon walking into the room of about 20 adults, you headed straight for the center of the circle to show off! You are so confident! Every once in a while you get a bit shy or apprehensive of people you haven’t seen in a while, but warm up within a few minutes. And dogs or people with glasses are a shoo-in every time.

Mealtimes are a bit crazy these days. You’re not what we would call picky — you’ll happily eat cabbage, broccoli rabe, and raw spinach! — but are becoming very particular of how you eat. Every meal is a guessing game of whether you will want to feed yourself; want to be fed by us; throw everything on the floor; only want to eat something if it’s a large chunk instead of small bites; etc. We’re trying not to stress too much about it, and remind ourselves of the Division of Responsibility. And you’re still happily growing; at your 12 month checkup you were around 24 pounds and 31 inches!

You have been communicating with us for so long now, but are also starting to get the hang of words. You say “Mama,” for Mommy, but you also say it over and over when anyone leaves the room. “Dada” is Daddy, but you say it rarely — usually you call Todd “Mama” too. “Mmm” is “I’m hungry,” or “that tastes good.” “Na-na” or “Bah-bah” are also used around food. You have also said “Aama” a few times –we think this might be Grandma or Grandpa. You sniff when we ask what bunnies do, and can wave bye-bye, know that keys go in doors, and we think we recognize you starting to use the sign for “all done” (which will be especially helpful for mealtimes!).

We are very proud parents, but even if you did none of the above, we would still be over the moon about you, Baby Seth.

All our love,
Mommy and Daddy

Bathtime for Seth

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